Same-Sex Marriage Influences People’s Lives Essay

Introduction

People are living in a constantly changing world, but everyone knows that a marriage is a legal union of man and women as husband and wife, and a spouse is a husband or wife of opposite sex. At the time, no state in United States of America recognized same-sex couples in marriage, so this problem is extremely important nowadays. For people who are getting married, it should be a process of happiness, inspiration, and achievements. Same-sex marriage couples became the subject of serious accusations, but they did not worry about it. Sometimes, the accusations of same-sex marriage couples are completely unfair and insulting, but in the most cases it is the human real story with not very pleasant consequences since they are losing their well-paid jobs, their statuses and positions, and support of their families and friends. As a matter of fact, same-sex marriage has great influences in people’s lives, such as sexual freedom with ignorance of the family interests and values concerning the future, strong changes against family respect and dignity, and negative effects that ruin our nation.

Same-sex marriage leads to wrong life…

Our life – our choice, but it is not always the right position. Everyone has a great impact of friends, personal environment, and culture and believes that influences on his or her life daily.  We consider it a wonderful gift that we are able to do whatever we want, trying to choose something new, fascinating, and diverse. Having had the opportunity to live in our modern world we both feel that it is up to us to make and organize our personal live and choices, position and visions. But we have to remember about responsibility, the responsibility before our parents, before our future with families, before our children.  Sometimes people do not think seriously about the phenomenon of same-sex marriage and its consequences, others believe that it is the world’s protest, some find it is a privilege to create such a unique union whose very task is to introduce their inner world, feelings and visions.      Nowadays, same-sex marriage is the problem that is far too serious to ignore. We are all here the growing generation that can change the society for better. People from all over the world have different views concerning this problem, but I think we are able to strengthen this resolve by our own actions, bringing together all those involved in the problem of same-sex marriage. We are like the one world alliance, the young generation that can create an excellent offer concerning this problem.

In the book Same-Sex Marriage: the Personal and the Political (2004) by Kevin Alderson and Kathleen Lahey, the authors give some statistical facts concerning the same-sex marriage, they write that “the twenty-first century has brought with it the dramatic opening of marriage to same-sex couples in Europe and North America” (9). Nowadays this problem is making a significant progress. This book includes reliable evidence, as Kathleen is a lesbian law professor and has been involved in law reform; Alderson is a professor of counseling psychology and author of two books about gay identity. I found a lot of his personal stories based on the interviews about lesbian and gay couples who have already married and they are happy now as legally married couples. The book even gives some support to same-sex marriage couple, showing that the opposite couples can learn a lot from them.

Actually, I do not find it quite normal. Marriage is a beautiful present that God gives to us, and we must value it. However different we may be, we share our common traditions and customs, visions and interests, and environment with various opportunities. Our culture and religion continues to change us, our lifestyle, and our attitudes. The political and religious debates concerning the same-sex marriage are progressing for the last years, but before making a serious decision, the person must think carefully what really matters in life, as I think, it is essential to feel respect, tolerance and love.

Marriage, like union, is a universal art. I think we must choose an opposite person, not same-sex, as it leads to wrong creation of families and their needs. The opposite-sex marriage is life itself with strong and natural feelings, it is taken for granted. Nevertheless, we all have our own ideas about what same-sex marriage means, but are we right? The couples of opposite sex will get the natural intimate relations, the beauty and richness of family life, but what does it all mean to same-sex couples? For them, marriage is not a natural process, it is not normal for society, it is against morality. Our religions and believes give us a head start on our life journey with family relations.

What is the reason?

Same-sex couples and same-sex marriage means some kind of security, the protection from staying alone, in some cases the improvement of your financial condition. In some cases, it seems like cohabitation, the way to comfort the comfortless, get over losses, celebrate victories. But our bodies and minds are demanding the right way, the right relationships, the right marriage with own children. And it is not necessary to say about political responsibility or the authority before same-sex marriage, as everything depends on personality.

It is true that the larger picture can be somewhat depressing. The consequences are really bad, not only concerning morality and religion, by for children of same-sex couples, as it leads to their discrimination. Al Knight, in Denver Post, gives an article Marriage: San-Francisco Lifestyle (2004) where he writes that “a married couple who has child together are both automatically considered legal parents”, but “given a degree of discrimination against same-sex couples, you should not rely on this to protect your parental rights”. I find here the great risk.

We do not choose our parents, so parents must be responsible for their children. It is an awful experience for the child of such a couple as it means not very good position in society. In the most cases, children of gay and lesbians couples are the victims that suffer all their life.

The book Politics of Same-Sex Marriage (2007) by Craig Rimmerman, who is a professor of public policy studies and political science, and Clyde Wilcox, who is a professor of government at Georgetown University, gives better understanding the complexities of the politics of the issue, but they do not write about a strong support concerning same-sex couples or the opposite-sex ones, the authors just explain policy analyses, social movement theories, interest group perspectives, various theories of public opinions, and so on. I partly agree with their political views and find same-sex marriage confusing. They write that “many see marriage as an institution created by God”, so “most have mental images of countless heterosexual marriages in their minds as they approach this new issue” (10).

Conclusion

According to Wilcox and Rimmerman, “surveys show that Americans value traditional marriage” and most of us still believe that “homosexuality is sinful” (10), so our nation has the chances to improve the present situation, the situation that is morally wrong and bad. And when I found that David Newton in his Same-Sex Marriage: a Reference Handbook (2010) considers “the idea of same-sex marriage in the twenty-first century is not such a revolutionary idea as it first seems”, I am against his statement, as I find it completely disgusting for our civilization. I see same-sex marriage is like a slow process for degradation, degradation concerning our culture, moral values, and natural relations.

 

Works Cited:

Alderson, K., & Lahey, K. Same-Sex Marriage: the Personal and the Political. Insomniac Press. 2004. Print.

Knight, Al. Marriage: San-Francisco Style. Copyright Denver Post. California. Feb. 18, 2004. Print

Newton, D., E.,  Same-Sex Marriage: a Reference Handbook. Santa Barbara. CA. 2010. Print.

Rimmerman, C., & Wilcox, C. Politics of Same-sex Marriage. University of Chicago  Press. 2007. Print

 

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